“Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.” ~ Robert Browning (1812-1889)
My dear husband came up with an activity, for lack of a better word, for every Friday at breakfast. He said both of us must tell each other something that the other did not know. This is probably the 4th week now. It was such a great idea until I had to really think of something. Afterall we have been married for more than a decade. What else do we not know about each other? Funny enough, when the both of us try really hard, we actually could think of things we did not know about each other. Every Friday breakfast, we have 2 new topics to talk about. Sometimes, we don't even have enough time to finish our conversation as we needed to get to work!
Imagine, having not enough time to talk about each other! Not about our stressful jobs, our 4 lovely kids, our wonderful family but about ourselves. For that half hour every week, I learn more about my husband and he about me. We reconnect, despite our very busy lives. For that very short period, the world around us melts into the background and it is just us.
I read this post recently on Simple Marriage, "Am I too busy for marriage?". That question loomed large in my mind as I read it. Am I too busy for marriage? Do we remember who we are and who our spouse is? It is so important to see the other person as the person we love and want to spend the rest of our lives with. Not just the parent of my children, not just the other person with the paycheck, not someone we share our bed with.
My dear husband is also my best friend, confidate, lover, coach and the person whom I chose to journey with. He may not be everything to me (there is also God, kids and the rest of the clan!), but he means a lot to me. As he said to my son in the car, "Mummy is very important to me so I want to know everything about her!".
Well, I want to know everything about him. And yes, grow old with him...
What about you? Have you found time in your busy schedules to reconnect with your spouse?
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